How to Commit to Change
We are knee-deep into July and motivation may be waning on the goals you have set for yourself and what is actually required to achieve those goals by year end or before. Change is hard. Change can be negative. Change can scare you.
Change is also healthy and necessary and the fast-paced world in which we live in is constantly changing. If we fail to adapt and commit to change, then we will fail to thrive in life and move forward.
If you sit down and reflect honestly, you will probably observe that change is the only constant thing in our lives. It is imperative that we learn to adapt and commit to change.
How is this related to self-care? Well, often, when we try to focus on self-care, it involves a change in habit, in attitude, in our schedule and yes, a change in our eating. Committing to change is hard, but it can be done.
Here are a few ways to help you commit to change.
#1: Define your commitment
First things first, define what type of change you want to commit to. If you do not know what you are committing to, then you will never be able to truly commit to change. Be clear and be honest while defining your commitment. Make a plan by defining why you are doing this and how are you going to do this. You can even use a notebook for this purpose.
Let’s use the example of fitness. If you do not like the condition your body is currently in, you might decide to change it. You must define why are you doing this; be as clear, honest and detailed as you can. Then draft a plan regarding the methods you are going to practice achieving this, such as improving your eating habits and increasing your physical activity.
This will make you aware of what you are actually committing to and prepare yourself for the work ahead.
#2: Do not be a spectator
The second thing to improve commitment to change is to make sure you are not "faking the funk," saying you want to change without participating in the effort. Commitment is an obligation that you cannot fulfill if you do not fully engage with it.
Staying with the example of fitness, you are just “checking the box” if you are just going to the gym to say you went to the gym but are not changing your eating habits as well; you will not reach the results you want. To get the best results and to fully embrace the change, you have to commit to a healthy overall lifestyle by going to the gym AND by changing your eating habits. You must completely invest yourself in what the change requires. In other words, you must be “all in” and your actions must be carried out with intent. Coasting is for amatures … am I right?
#3: Be persistent
Commitment requires persistence … dogged, determined persistence! You cannot chicken out because you are finding it hard to adapt to change or if the change is not immediately working out for you. That is not how it is done. To acquire great results from the change, you have to practice persistence. Again, using the example of fitness, some days you will do well; you will eat healthy meals and you will workout like a beast! Other days will not go so smoothly. We are human after all. However, these small failures only equate to big failures if you do not persevere and power past them to try again the next day. You must be persistent to get the results your heart desires. Don’t let the set-back be the main character of your story!
#4: Refresh your motivations
Motivation is not permanent; it requires revisiting and refreshing. Go back to your notebook where you defined your commitments. Re-read those reasons and plans that you wrote down while you were defining your commitments when you were powerfully motivated. This will reignite that spark. If your motivations have changed, draft your plan again and add some new reasons to the list.
Committing to change—any change—is significant and can be daunting. Take some “baby steps” with these four tips to get started, and remember that slow and steady wins the race.
Yours in health and wellness,
Francine